James Smith in his book, "You Are What You Love: The Spiritual Power of Habit", begins his book by asking the question, "What do you really want?" In the deep recesses of your heart, what is your deepest longing and desire? Is it comfort? Is it the stability that money brings? Is it the love and respect of others? Smith makes the point that our check books and personal calendar reflect the deepest love and longing of our hearts.
Love is a choice that is either cultivated or neglected. Love is either protected or neglected. Love "takes practice". In many often unintentional ways, we built our lives around what we truly love. The unspoken "liturgy" of our lives cultivates and deepens around some central idea. The book challenges us to build routines and habits in our life that cultivates a deeper love for God.
It also exposes the emptiness of our rituals. Are we worshipping and spending time with God because we desire more of Him, or because we want more of what he gives. You can say "you are what you worship", but also say "you are what you love". The question is, am I building my life habits on what I say is my greatest love?